Halloween’s past..

Today being Halloween and no trick or treating and dressing up.. our younger boys are too old now. I spent a lot of time looking through pictures today and remembering all the past Halloween’s with our kids! All the different costumes, funny faces, years of the repeated “hunter” costume! It was a great stroll down memory lane! I miss those days so much! Toting our boys across our small friendly town .. up and down the hills, keeping up with the running ones, and the sugar craze that followed, great times! It goes by so fast..

Memories are our treasures!! Hold on as long as you can!

Our Kennybug!! I love his – Say cheese- smile at this age!!

I miss our Kenny so badly every single day but as to be expected holidays are so much harder.

With love, hugs and understanding!

KennyBugs Momma, Angela!

Coming soon!! 3 days!!!

Today I did an interview with a wonderful young reporter from a local TV station in Mid Missouri, it went well! I have done several interviews over the past few years.. no matter how many times you sit in front of the camera and speak about someone you love and miss so painfully it’s difficult. Today, however, I felt a bit more at ease. Instead of discussing only what happened to our son, the legal proceedings, the interview focused on who our son was. My main purpose for writing my son’s story was so that people would know he was a normal, happy, loving, and kind kiddo! I wanted the world to see him and not just the words about his death! Of course in telling Kenny’s story I touch on all subjects.. bullying, I dive into my grief in hopes to helping someone, anyone who is where I am, missing their child or loved one. I offer helpful tips for those affected by bullying and more than anything I hope my sons story finds its way to the hands of those who need to know they are not alone.

My authors copy! I’m so thrilled to have completed this task for my son!

Where The trail Ends, The Kenny Suttner Story will be available through Amazon on October 30th. I hope you enjoy the book!

Helping others is very therapeutic. The smallest acts of kindness will be rewarded with a smile and words of kindness to warm an aching heart!

With Love, hugs, and understanding!

KennyBugs Momma, Angela Suttner!

Every day..

My daily tears, the nightmarish grief that fills me is my life. I miss my son. More and more with each day that passes. The life he should have had, I dream about.

Please be kind!

Always, with love hugs and understanding!

KennyBugs Momma, Angela!

Photos!

When all you have are photographs and videos to see your child besides the engraved imagine that resides in your mind, you cherish each and every one. With a single picture you instantly embark on a trip down memory lane, and you love each trip. I take many trips! It’s when you snap back to today that hurts.

Kenny and his little brothers pumpkin carving! It was such a great fall day!

The pain of the Bereaved Parent.

I do not compare my pain to anyone’s else’s, that’s not fair to anyone.. all I know is mine. I can relate and understand your pain but I can’t feel it and vice versa, therefore we remain connected by knowing we bear the immeasurable pain together. The pain of missing our beloved child. The brokenness of our hearts, the fake smiles we force, the days where sobbing is all we can accomplish…. we remain and do our best to keep moving forward in this life, even when those steps we take backwards make us feel like all we do is struggle.. like walking against a strong wind. Slow and steady is all we can do.

Deep breaths and allow the memories to carry you on to the next day!

With Love, Hugs and Understanding!!

KennyBugs Momma, Angela!

Night Tears.

No sleep for the weary. Insomnia and heartache. I miss my son!

My son enjoying some peace with a good book!

Kenny is always on my mind, always missed.. forever loved!

Please be kind!

Love, hugs and understanding!

Angela, Kennybugs Momma!

Changing..

For some reason yesterday evening I suddenly felt the change of seasons. It’s late August, still a 90 degree day, beautiful blue sky… But if you sit and watch in the woods the leaves are gently falling. Changing colors. The fawns are losing their spots, the blooms of flowers are on their last debut of the year. The once bright green corn fields are now turning golden. It’s here, Autumn!

August Sunset!

It’s magnificent how a change in seasons can manifest in people as a shift in moods but it does. Change can be such a great thing! Cooler temperature, fall rainy days to make the dust disappear… And a new view full of exuberance and color. Fall colors are amazing. We resort to things of comfort.. a warm blanket, soft pajama pants, a favorite mug for hot chocolate. Bonfires and hoodies are a must! It can be a great time of year!

I am going to try to embrace the season and changes that are coming. The clocks will change, the days become shorter, the nights longer. I am looking forward to it. Do not fear change..

Teaching myself to overcome my anxiety from the thought of this time of year. The time, season and upcoming date on which my son left this world.

Focus on the positive!

With love, hugs and understanding!

Angela, Kennybugs Momma!

Today and Always!

Always!

Learning to be ok with my grief! It is mine, noone else can take it from me, carry it for me, guide me, teach me or see me through it. You may hold my hand, lend a shoulder and offer words of kindness.. but at the end of the day it is just me and my grief. It comes from the depths of my love for my son. A love that can not be replicated or explained. We love our children individually. Not to define or compare them to another. Each deserving their own place in our hearts. There they will always stay. Our Blessings.

Our hearts are made to love our children without ending, eternally growing. Death does not change that. The only thing that changes is that I have nowhere to place my love for my son, to bestow it upon him with care and graditude that he is mine. It’s kept locked away in my heart, tight and forever.. expelled through prayer. Words whispered in the wind, spoken in my mind, sent to him with hope that he may hear me. The part of my heart that belongs to my angel at times feels overflowing. That’s what grief is. All of our love and noway to give it to our child. A hug, a long talk, a sweet text just to say – Hi, I love you-! We are denied the normal rights of parenting. The day to day showering our child with love ceased to exist. So in our hearts our love for them remains. Building with the days that come and pass. Coming out through tears and sadness, always taunted by the inexplicable loss and always missing them.

Grief is not a state of mind but a heart full of love, a love that never deminishes. Therefore grief will always be a part of me. And I’m ok with that!

With love, hugs and understanding!

Angela, KennyBugs Momma!

Reasons to smile..

It’s a beautiful sunshine filled August morning. All the flowers are opened to take in all the warmth and light and it’s so pretty. The grass damp with the morning dew. Birds singing, butterfly’s everywhere.. what a blessing.

I have been self motivating lately. I no longer rely on things or people for my moods, or outlook on the day. It’s up to me. I can either let the despicable nature of others keep me down or I can choose to see the best this world has to offer and know that it is enough. I choose the later. I have wonderful people in my life, surrounding me with love and happiness, I’m lucky. Very lucky!

I urge those of you who struggle as I do to search for those who bring you light, fresh air, laughter, and good vibes. Stay away from the negative.. the ones who insist on bringing up things that you have healed from, no longer give them any power over your smile. We have enough things in our daily life to weigh us down, do not allow those hate filled people to add more. You will soon find as the days pass that they no longer have any power over you… your healing will escalate, your peace will slowly return and your mind will fill with happy memories again.

It’s pretty hard to understand how people will line up to be the first to kick you while your down. Its cruel and vile, but it’s true.. there they’ll be if you give them the chance. For quite sometime now I have refused to just lay there and give anyone the chance to hurt me anymore. And I am here to say it was long overdue, I took my power back and put my shield back up. I am no one’s emotional punching bag. I am not a place, person or thing for anyone to throw their guilt at, expell their anger at, to blame, point fingers just to make themselves feel better. No longer.

I had wasted so much energy begging God to make people leave me be while I grieve our son. Why won’t they just leave me and my family be?? Until I realized it was because I hadn’t completely shut that door, disabled the part of my heart and mind that allowed them to hurt me. Once I did that, shut that door, it was like seeing the sun in a whole new light. Bigger and brighter.

Instead of a world cloaked with darkness and unsavory people.. I see a world full of hope, love and understanding. A world I can grieve our son in while still feeling warmth, not cold bitterness. It truly makes a difference. After all isn’t that all we ask for and need. To grieve our child in peace. I know there will always be those who try to rain untruths, judgment and evil down on me to darken my days.. but I will see through the rain until the rainbow appears. Our son loved rainbows. It’s a choice we must make clear to ourselves and the universe. We choose peace.

I wish you all a sunshine filled day, if it rains, wait patiently to see that rainbow to remind you that the rain will go away and the sun always returns.

With Love, Hugs and Understanding!

Angela, Kennybugs Momma!

The Adult Bully..

When we least expect it days pop up where we are forced to defend.. protect our son’s memory and our family from some of the most viscous of people. I call them evil. You may also call them cruel, violent, narsasistic people. All of which are true. I am constantly reminded that bully’s come in many forms, all ages and use any means to inflict their venom into your life. The satisfaction they get out of their actions is sick.

I understand not liking someone, having distain for someone.. but to attack someone repeatedly because – you don’t like them- is not normal. Healthy adults will simply move on and not associate with the unliked person/person’s. A sick minded person seeks ways to bully, destroy, harass, manipulate and sets his/her target on you. It is a sickness, a need to feel superior and it does become worrisome, at what lengths will these types of perpetrators go? What will it take to have them leave the victim/victims alone? Will you need the authorities to intervene, legal action, expose them for who they are? There may come a time when drastic measures are needed to protect yourself and family. Do not hesitate if you feel threatened.

My faith in humanity sustains me, and my belief that good will always prevail keeps me moving forward. I may be blindsided and taken back by the means and lengths some will go to bring us more heartache, like a snake that strikes without warning. But we pray, hope and constantly search for peace and to be left alone while we try to heal and live each day to our best ability.

We are very thankful, grateful and appreciative to have the army of Kenny Warriors behind us. We know we have a lot of people who believe as we do.. that kindness will conquer the cruel. We stay strong, united and unwaivered in our fight against bullying.

With love, hugs and understanding. Take back your power in knowing noone has the right to attack, abuse, or threaten your well-being. Ever.

Love Angela, Kennybugs Momma!