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About kennystrong

I am a mother who never ever thought I would be fighting to end this ugly epedemic called bullying that took our sweet, caring, wonderful son from us, Kenny Suttner. But here I am and will continue to try to make a difference in my sons honor.

Like A Hammer!

Sometimes in our daily lives all it takes is something very simple, insignificant to anyone else, to send me into a panic filled, heart throbbing, manic kind of meltdown. It generally passes rather quickly but it hits like a hammer.

All it took today was for a knock at the door. It was a very kind older gentleman out collecting census information. When I answered the door he asked “ Hello Ma’am, Is Kenny home?” And my mind instantly went to my son Kenny, of course!!! For a few seconds I stood frozen until my mind had a – ding ding- moment and I realized he was looking for my husbands Uncle who our Kenny was named after, who lives up the road from us. But for those few seconds, I was speechless. I quickly gathered myself and I kindly directed him to the correct address. I then went inside and immediately broke down.. to hear your child’s name come out of the mouth of a stranger does something to your heart… even though he was not referring to our Kenny, my mind started to think “ this is what it would be like if Kenny was still here and someone came to the door for him” and my mind couldn’t take it. He should be here.. this shouldn’t have hit me so hard, but it did!

It’s impossible for anyone to comprehend what life is like for parents who have lost a child.. little moments like these are small but huge for us. 😞

KennyBug! ❤️

With Love, Hugs and Understanding, Angela, KennyBugs momma 🥰🦋

My thoughts.. 💬

A couple things I needed to pop in and get off my mind. I’ve read and heard so much about “ fist” and “ thick skin” being the answers to bullying. For one.. it shocks me that people would rather kids brawling than learning and being taught to “ just be kind”! And two… those fist may make your child feel better in the moment but I promise you it won’t fix the embarrassment and long lasting emotional distress that the constant name calling and belittling has caused. The sad truth is bullying affects young minds just the same, if not worse, as verbal abuse from a spouse for an adult, but yet it’s treated and looked at so different. It’s expected of children to just shrug it off as “ kids will be kids” but the parents who have children come home from school crying, miserable and develop depression, self confidence issues and more, we are the ones who have to stand alone in most cases to beg someone to make it stop. Why is it so hard to spot a bully, take that child aside and 1. Discuss what is causing the bullying behavior. 2. Explain what the bullying does to the target. 3. Discuss school policy against bullying and harassment. 4. Lastly, discuss the consequences of bullying. Instead so many instances get overlooked for reasons that are not ethical. Apparently too many bully reports in a school looks bad in reports… 🤷‍♀️

A students safety, which includes mental health, is the first and most important responsibility of the school while our children are in their care. Please make sure the school your child attends has a stern bullying and harassment policy.. have you checked your school? Since Kenny’s passing our school has made tremendous strides to improve their efforts to stop bullying in its tracks and that brings me some solace.

With the new school year quickly approaching it’s been weighing heavy on my mind. Please have the “ bullying “ talk frequently with your child. Make it a very open conversation.

StopBullying.gov

Thank you to all for your continued support and care!

Sending love, hugs and understanding, Angela, KennyBugs Momma! 🥰

Happy Days!

I’ve had some good days lately.. days where I want to be outside, watching my hummingbirds, listening to the birds.. just taking in all the beautiful nature around me. When I get these days I try to take it in as much as I can. That may sound silly, but for me, it’s a necessity. I enjoy time to myself more than anything, that may seem odd, but I do. Why? When I’m by myself, outside just listening.. my mind can wonder and go back in time. I can picture all my boys young, playing, laughing, running around having so much fun and they are all there together. I can sit and look at photos, smile, laugh and cry all at once and not have to explain or hide my tears. These are times that I need.

So here’s some beauty from my good days!!

Beautiful sunset from my happy place!
Major! He’s such a good boy!

With all the sadness and heartache I live with daily missing Kenny.. I do have “ good” days! That doesn’t mean I don’t cry and feel his loss, it just means I can enjoy the simple joys in life without feeling guilt. For many that won’t make sense but it’s just a feeling I have. How can I be happy? How can I enjoy a pretty day? When my son can’t?! It’s very hard to navigate through all the emotions felt each day, but I do my best! And that has to be enough!

Ok one more beautiful picture!

The road to peace!

It’s ok to feel some twinge of happiness..

With Love, hugs and understanding.. Angela, KennyBugs Momma! 🦋🥰🦋🥰

Always and Forever!

Like a lot of you, I wake up and check my socials. I check my Facebook memories, I like to sit and remember each past post.. the day, what we were doing, etc. I try to hang onto every memory. Some days are easier than others.

This mornings past post from 3 years ago.

A Mother’s Anguish!
Our KennyBug!

It’s so hard. Hard to explain just what it’s like to wake up every single morning with the instant thought of “ my child is gone” and to try to be “ ok”! Even in the book that we published in Kenny’s honor, Where The Trail Ends: The Kenny Suttner Story, I feel like I still wasn’t able to portray the full, reality of life after child loss. Because it is that hard to put into words. I do my best to be raw and open so that the parents like me know they are not alone. I hope in small way I can help.

If today is a hard day.. it’s ok. Take some time to just feel all your emotions and remember the good times! That’s what I’ll be doing today 🦋

For me I’ll be focusing on Kenny in the picture above. Kenny didn’t like having his picture taken very much but this particular evening he asked me to take this picture. He had just gotten his haircut and he liked it, so did I!! He felt good about himself in that moment and that memory alone will sustain me today.

Sending Love, Hugs and Understanding, Angela, KennyBugs Momma!

Where the Trail Ends: The Kenny Suttner Story https://a.co/d/17aaavd

Country Life!

A few things that I love about living in the country!! It’s been 24 years now.

I love sitting on the porch by myself, all I can hear are all the different birds singing at each other, I love watching the hummingbirds, some frogs cloaking from all directions, the creek just below the house is slowly moving, and a slight breeze to keep the sweat at bay. It’s so calming! And the best Exhale..

She enjoys the quiet with me!

I also love just roaming across the farm and seeing all the signs of beauty everywhere! I am always stopping to take pictures. After 24 years my husband is used to me saying “stop” or “pull over” so I can get that picture! I do not claim to be a pro at all, I just enjoy it 🥰

It’s the simple things that I enjoy the most! Today has been a good day so far and I hope it has been for you as well! 🦋

With Love, Hugs and Understanding, Angela KennysBugs Momma! ❤️

Pure Beauty!

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It’s such a beautiful morning, I hope you all are having a fair weather morning! It’s going to get really hot later today, like 97.. so I’m taking advantage of the cool temperatures and watered all my plants already, not even 7am! Everything is getting so close to blooming, I can’t wait! 🌺🌺

Anyway, just wanted to pop in and wish everyone a great day! 🥰🥰

Angela, KennyBugs Momma! 🦋

Set Backs Are Ok!

Lately, I have had a bit more energy, motivation, a push to do more. Whether it’s around the house or in my flowers, etc. I guess a way to say it is -my give a damn has returned- and while I’m pleased to feel like I want to participate in every day life things again, I’m very aware that I feel definitely out of practice. Holding a conversation, in person, face to face, for an example is not easy for me. There is so much that changes a parent after child loss and so much that is not understood by those around you and very understandably so they can’t fathom what you mean by admitting that you have difficulties with normal every day things. Some parents, like me, struggle daily.

For instance, since losing Kenny, I have extreme panic and anxiety attacks that take hold of you and lies to your mind and creates irrational fears. Ones that keep you worried, scared, up all hours of the night, always with the “ what if’s” and you can’t explain why?! There’s also the loss of trust in people because deep down you feel like your being judged.. so you learn to just be quiet, which inevitably creates a very small circle in your life and you basically become home bound. And that is to just list a few things. It’s so much. Yet I face it all, learning as I go… Just how do I survive losing our son? A question that has no clear answer.

Today, I hope is a “good day” for us all but if it’s not and you find yourself struggling just remember — You are not alone— 🥰 The one thing I can do is share my own struggles on this horrible journey that no one wants to be on and hope that if anyone else is struggling at least you know your not alone. We are literally living through the most unnatural loss. All we can do is our best, whether that’s minute to minute, hour to hour, day to day.. and that’s enough!

With Love, Hugs and Understanding!! Angela, KennyBugs Momma! 🦋🦋

So much sadness..

I have been so lost for words lately. So much sadness and violence… loss and devastation, it feels like this country has lost all control, where is the humanity? What is happening? I’m heartbroken for all the families ( past and present school shooting victims) who have lost their beautiful children, for the families of the teachers who were protecting their students, that they cared for. I pray, pray, pray for them all. I pray for the innocent people who are randomly, viscously being killed while getting groceries, going to church, attending a funeral, being at a hospital/clinic for health care, going about their every day lives and are being actively gunned down 😩 I just pray for this country so much. No-one is safe! The “United” that is supposed to define our country is sadly being trampled on by hate filled people who seek to destroy and no one is doing anything to stop them. What can be done to stop them? That’s the life-saving question? There is no time for a political war right now.. Unite and stop this now. I don’t care what your pride tells you, pocketbooks/wallets, personal belief, or what your religion is, we can all at-least agree that we no longer feel safe in our own country from our own fellow citizens. Meanwhile, while our government decides ( fights) about what can be done, we all have to watch this unfold before our eyes, our children’s eyes, in shock and horror!!

So sad! 😞

Tell the ones you love how much you love them and often. Remain kind and spread it as much as you can. Stay safe!

Love, hugs and understanding! Angela Suttner, KennyBugs Momma! 🦋

So Thankful!!

Available on Amazon!

I want to take a bit to express my thanks and gratitude for those who have read our book and have helped us reach this milestone… #50 reviews 🎉 It may not seem like such a big deal but for us it’s huge! We are excited to know that those who have read Kenny’s story have been impacted and will go on to tell others about Kenny’s story.

Our wish is that Kenny’s story will instill hope in those who need to know they are not alone. The thought of our book saving a life means everything to me and helps my broken heart. It’s the very reason for sharing KennyBugs story and my painful journey.

So, I humbly thank each of you for your continued support and care for Kenny and his story!

With love, hugs and understanding! Please Be Kind! It’s Easy!!

Angela, KennyBugs Momma!

Happy 23rd Birthday, Kennybug! January Fourteenth!

Like a carousel, my mind spins around and around. Slowly. Not so fast as to feel sick but just enough to feel like I need to plant my feet firmly on the ground. Instead of beautiful, colorful horses, synchronized as they go round and around – my mind plays slideshows of birthday party memories, pictures of Kenny’s smiling face as we all sang “ Happy Birthday” for him. I can see his face so clear with his beautiful blue eyes that shined so bright when he smiled.. Kenny’s smile made you feel like you were special somehow.. it was said to me once that “Kenny’s smile was like a warm hello without him saying a word” and that’s very accurate!

As I’ve been feeling the anxiety and panic build in my chest and head. I close my eyes tight and plant my feet firmly and focus on my son’s wonderful smile. I will spend today weeping endlessly but I will do so and also smile because I will be thinking of Kenny’s smile!

With a broken heart I pray Kenny is remembered by many today and they spread kindness, tolerance and acceptance. Please Be Kind! It’s Easy!

With Love, hugs and understanding, Angela, KennyBugs Momma!